a 10-step guide for unleashing the ultimate in female ecstasy

interesting reading i came across which makes me wanted to blog it. this is actually a finding by this guy name donald l.hicks. for those who doesn't believe that the g-spot exist, well you better do. the writer even listed down the 10 step guide for unleashing the ultimate in female ecstassy. remember meg ryan in "when harry met sally"? i'm sure the scene when she scream in the restaurant still stuck there in your memory. no? liar. i can still remember it...damn.



anyway, here are the 10 step guide for men out there to know...

step1 - priming
it is advisable to try it with ur steady partner, because of the emotional qualities. in order to fully let go, many women need to feel safe, loved, and secure with their partners' sexual prowess and understanding. it is also wise not to mention the g-spot orgasm to ur partner. sit down with ur lover and tell her tat you'd love to take her out for dinner or a movie, then return home and spend the evening making slow passionate love. be sure to mention the second part of this plan so ur lover doesn't get the wrong impression. this will do 2 things for u. one, ur lover will appreciate ur candor and the romance of the gesture; two, it will prime her for lovemaking. be sure to groom urself like, be sure ur fingernails are short, clean, and smooth to avoid damaging the soft tissues of her body.



step2 - foreplay
after dinner or movie, talk about old times and those to come, perhaps give her flowers, brush the spinach out of ur teeth from dinner, maybe slow dance in the living room and eventually work ur way to the bedroom, be sure to remind her of how beautiful she is and how much u enjoy being with her. boost the intimacy lar. talk to her. remember tat for many women, foreplay is mainly emotional.



step3 - more foreplay
most likely, with a few more kisses, some light petting, and additional compliments, the 2 of u will be stripping each other as if ur clothes are on fire. this is when u need to gently take control. if this is ur steady partner and u've primed her the week before ur "date", she'll likely be wet and ready to fall into ur standard lovemaking. seize control by telling her u want to "take it slow" this time. remind her that u love her and remind her how beautiful u think she is. if she has nice breasts, tell her so. if it's her eyes, her long legs, or her full sensual lips, tell her so. praise is a key element within any relationship. it costs nothing to give but can be priceless when received. in the case of most women, by the time u've spent a few minutes kissing all about her face, nibbling the lips, kissing the eyelids, perhaps blowing in her ear, and dragging ur lips over her neck and down to her shoulders, u'll probably notice her beginning to inch upwards or pressing ur face toward her breasts...arching her back. if she's forward, she may seek u out with her hand or guide ur hand to her breast. a critical element here is keeping all ur attention, physical and emotional, focused at breast level or above.

step4 - teasing
so here u are, in bed together, probably naked by this point, very aroused and ready. this is the part where both patience and self-control are beginning to come into play-don't sell urself and give in! lavish her with kisses. at this point u can "bend" the rule of focusing all attention at the breast level (and above) by rubbing her stomach. this is an important step in the arousal process. the purpose of this step is to increase blood flow in the pelvic area. work ur hand back and forth across her stomach and down her abdomen very slowly, and randomly until u've reached the area just above the pubic hairline. absolutely don't drop any lower-even if she tries to move it there. the reason u don't want to touch any lower than the abdome (yet) is becoz it breaks the bond u're working to build. continue to nuzzle her breasts, kiss her, nibble at the nect, or whatever shows ur love. u're about to provide the stimulus for an orgasm that is unlike anything she's ever felt. as u nuzzle or whatever it is that turns her on, u're watching for 2 "go ahead" signs before moving to step 5. the first is the most important. u must continue stimulation until she is virtually smashing ur head into her chest, breathing heavily, tugging at u as if sh'e trying to pull u inside her. once u become aware of this, start watching (or sensing) for the 2nd sign: movements in her hips. if she's not thrusting, arching or twisting he hips, she's not ready. so continue nuzzling and sucking at her breasts until her hips move. if need be, move ur hand a little lower on her abdomen to brush the upper edge of the pubic hair as u rub. before long, both of these signs will come.



step5 - the "go ahead" sign
keep ur head and face at chest level or above. this gives the unspoken message that "u're still with her". slowly trace down to rub her upper and inner thighs, without touching the vagina. massage the muscles gently; working the flesh actually tugs at the edge of vulva, helping to open the labia and helping her become more ready and wanton. this also increases blood flow in the pelvis, arousing and heightening sensitivity. trace ur fingers up and down her thighs, provocatively circling her "magic triangle". brushing the edges will ensure her hips continue to thrust. above all, remember to focus on her and hold the emotional bond u've established.

step6 - hovering
ur next step will be to move ur hand above her womanhood and hover it there, just brushing the tips of the pubic hair. while hovering, u may even tug at the hair lightly. u need not tease her in this way for more than 2 or 3 mins, but be sure to allow uru hand to hover above her womanhood long enough for her to show some type of acknowledgement-even if that's only a moan. after u've hovered and received a reaction, allow ur fingers to trace up and down the flesh on either side of her vagina. touch it very lightly. this is an extension of the tease and should further fuel the fires of arousal. ocntine this for a while and slowly change the feather-light touches into a soft massage. after massaged these muscles for a moment, trace her vagina with ur fingers, using a finger on either side of her vagina to lightly pull back and spread open the labia. spend a little time here, gently tug at them and spread them open. if u like, u may even stroke the clitoris lightly-but don't linger there as the clitoris can be very disruptive to first time g-spot orgasms. bear in mind through this whole process, never break contact with her breasts or above...returning frequently to kiss her lips and ward off her advances if she tries to pull u onto her.



step7 - locationg her g-spot
by now there should be no doubt she's ready. she should be moaning (at least quietly), trashing her hips, arching her back, and urging u on. and as u finally dip ur finger into that moist warm wetness, ur patience and self-control will be tested to their maximum endurance. but don't give up...u're almost there! slide ur finger into her very slowly-dipping in very shallow at first to allow ur finger to become moist-pulling out and dipping again. when touching a woman, many lovers make the error of plunging a finger as deeply into the vagina as possible and wiggling the member around, not realizing that aside from the hidden g-spot, most of the sensitive nerves lie within the first two inches of the vagina's throat. ur goal here is to tantalize the outer nerve endings while allowing ur finger to become sufficiently lubricated to visit hidden depths. finally, slide ur index finger into her, skimming the upper wall. this is the critical process of locating the g-spot, so while u're still kissing her, teasing her nipples or sucking her breasts, concentrate for a moment on what ur finger encounters. with most women, about one-and-one-half inches inside, u'll feel a slightly textured area of skin. just beyond this textured area is the g-spot, hidden in what feels like a "valley". in most cases, the g-spot feels like a small bean or a very small nipple. at other times it can't be sensed at all. just like breasts or nipples, some women have small g-spots and other have larger ones. once u've found the g-spot, begin rubbing very lightly in a circular manner, at the rate of about one revolution per second. the pressure u apply should begin with about the same degree of pressure u would use to write ur name on a steam-fogged mirror.

step8 - stimulating the g-spot
ok, u're finally there, rubbing the g-spot...so why isn't anything happening? in most cases, women will make comments such as "that feels good" or "stay right there" or "that feels so different". but if u don't get any response at all, don't panic. think of the g-spot as being similar to the nipple. as u begin to caress it in a slow, circular manner, u will soon feel the area swell. it may become more porous and have an almost grainy feel. and it will most definitely become very sensitive. if u try to move through the g-spot technique faster in the future and skip over steps, the g-spot may not be properly aroused when u reach it. always follow the steps and watch for the "go ahead" signs from ur partner as u move from one step to the next. the good news is, there appears to be a "point of no return" with g-spot orgass. after her first experience, ur lover will likely convey this to u. once she reaches the point where "waves" of pleasure are building and cascading rapidly, the orgasm becomes nearly inevitable.



step9 - the "big-o" draws near
so as u continue to stroke the g-spot, be sure to reassure her that u're there, with her, in suppost of her, and remind her that u love her. not only this will make her feel emotionally safe and secure and help her climax sooner, it will also help her relax and lessen any guilt she may feel because of all the unselfish time u're spending. as the g-spot orgasm grows new-the big o-the first thing u'll notice is a constricting of the vagina that begins with one of her "waves". with the next wave the vagina will constrict again, fade, then quickly return with the next wave, building and building to a point where the vagina is so perpetually constricted the muscles often spasm and quiver. sometimes, the constricting is so tight it will eject ur finger! about the same time u notice the first constriction, u'll also likely notice a greater sense of wetness. in fact, some women become very wet, to the point the suction of the finger causes slurping noises and a clear fluid actually begins to weep from the vagina. this is the wonder of female ejaculation.



step10 - you're there!
as the wetness increases, the vagina will begin to convulse violently. by this time ur lover will undoubtedly be trashing wildly and screaming "don't stop! don't stop! oh, god don't stop!" or "faster! faster! faster!" but regardless of how frantic ur lover becomes, regardless of how excited u get by watching her ecstasy, try to control ur motions. as she finally crests over the top, most women will scream. if u can picture the grunting scream of a woman giving birth, her head hunched forward, clenching her knees, u're on the right track...and at the same moment she cries out, if she hasn't already done so she may ejaculate. at this point, simply keep ur finger moving until ur lover asks u to stop or the orgasm fades. most men will want to join her as they sense the wave fading. the change from a finger to a swollen penis may delight her...and by this point, having watched her trash and scream, feeling the warm wetness on ur finger and hand, ur self-control will likely be gone. so as long as she's willing, jump in and enjoy the orgasm with her. feeling a wet, contracting vagina sucking at the penis can be an experience neither of u forget!

tips from experienced users
"it's critical that foreplay start long before u reach the bedroom." - anonymous

"if u want a thrill, have her lie on her back. lie on ur side facing her. have her throw her nearest leg over top ur legs so u can rub her g-spot and slide ur penis inside her at the same time. that way, ur finger is massaging her g-spot and ur penis! when she starts contracting, it will drive u both crazy." - d.j.

"the first time she came, it looked like she was about to give birth. she hunched forward and all this fluid shot out of her and splattered on my arm. i didn't believe in the g-spot until that moment. believe me, it's real." - t.j.s.


well, i'm not gonna say much. the book said it all. women out there, have u all ever experience this kind of ecstassy before?

*the 10 steps are purely 100% taken from the book. i'm just typing it back for blog purposes.